Emotional maturity begins early.
The toddler is hungry and cries. The crying continues till fed. That’s the means of the toddler.
The 2 yr outdated is hungry and, if crying, is instructed by the mother or father that the meals shall be prepared shortly.
That two-year-old positive aspects their composure with the endurance, calm, and assist of the mother or father. The 2-year-old learns to attend.
That studying to attend within the face of starvation develops frustration tolerance. The kid can face up to not having the necessity to feed met instantly. They’re delaying gratification.
Think about if the mother or father, feeling anxious over the two-year-old’s cry, rushed and instantly glad the kid with the quickest factor the kid may eat. Maybe a cookie.
As an alternative of growing frustration tolerance and studying to delay gratification, this youngster is studying that such emotions breed nervousness after which it’s shortly rewarded.
Thus, large emotions are to be feared and shortly squashed, even when by issues that really feel good, however usually are not essentially good, a minimum of within the second.
There’s a trajectory from these early experiences.
Think about which path you like.
Emotional maturity. It begins early.
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