The narcissist won’t solely unfold lies about their ex, they’ll inform individuals how their ex will deny these lies if confronted about them.
Take into consideration that.
It signifies that the ex who seeks to defend themselves towards these lies might inadvertently wind up confirming what the narcissist stated within the thoughts of the individual the ex is attempting to persuade in any other case.
That can create a state of affairs the place the ex feels trapped by the lies of the narcissist.
There’s a approach out, although.
As an alternative of attempting to win the argument and show who is correct, suppose by way of simply neutralizing was stated about you:
After listening to what her ex stated about her, she didn’t flinch, get indignant or defensive. She merely stated, “Sure, my ex says many such issues about me.”
And with that she then modified the topic and carried on with out lacking a beat.
That alone took the ability out of the individual’s assertion about her from her ex. It simply fell flat.
She didn’t get sucked in. She didn’t go down any rabbit gap. She didn’t get defensive or offensive. She acknowledged listening to what was stated and left it mendacity on the ground.
She mastered management of her personal dignity
That was the picture she created of herself. Dignified.
Because of this, no matter was stated of her by the narcissist, turned a mirrored image of him.
She neutralized him. He was no more practical at bringing her down regardless of ongoing makes an attempt.
She mastered management of her personal dignity.
Grace and calm underneath hearth.
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