by Erlene Grise-Owens, EdD, LCSW, MSW, MRE, lead co-editor of The A-to-Z Self-Care Handbook for Social Workers and Other Helping Professionals
A giant barrier to self-care success is how a lot we should on our self-care. I’ve developed this device to facilitate shifting away from ineffective, shaming “shoulding” tendencies towards simpler, compassionate self-care.
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Ought to Shonda versus Self-Care Shonda
In every state of affairs under, how a lot are you want Ought to Shonda or Self-Care Shonda?
Use the accompanying scale to designate your factors in every state of affairs.
Your flip. Add your individual state of affairs(s). What’s a selected shoulding space for you? Determine a selected private or skilled state of affairs. Or, a extra basic life tendency. Subsequent, think about a self-care reframe. Right here’s an instance:
Scoring: Calculate your factors. Notice that Ought to factors are unfavourable and Self-Care factors are optimistic.
Reflecting: The objective just isn’t a “good” rating. As an alternative, mirror in your rating. Determine these eventualities with larger scores (even when nonetheless within the unfavourable zone). Mirror on the way you’re in a position to be higher along with your self-care in these eventualities—and learn how to proceed enhancing. Subsequent, determine the bottom scores. Contemplate the way you may use what you’ve realized out of your successes in different areas to enhance. The objective is to maneuver towards Self-Care Shonda moderately than Ought to Shonda.
Much less shameful Shoulding! Extra compassionate Caring!
Peace, Love, & Self-Care, Erlene
Erlene Grise-Owens, EdD, LCSW, MSW, MRE, is a Accomplice in The Wellness Group, ETC. This LLC gives analysis, coaching, and session for organizational wellness and practitioner well-being. Dr. Grise-Owens is lead editor of The A-to-Z Self-Care Handbook for Social Workers and Other Helping Professionals. As a former school member and graduate program director, she and a small (however mighty!) group of colleagues applied an initiative to advertise self-care as a part of the social work training curriculum. Beforehand, she served in scientific and administrative roles. She has expertise with navigating toxicity and dysfunction, up-close and private! Likewise, as an educator, she noticed college students enter the sector and shortly burn out. As a devoted social employee, she believes the well-being of practitioners is a matter of social justice and human rights. Thus, she is on a mission to advertise self-care and wellness!
