Q. I have been married for a little more than ten years. My husband has been so involved in internet gaming that he has no concerns about taking care of our home and two children for the last five years. I have tried my best to change his attitude only to fail. I’d like to get divorced from him. Should I as a Buddhist see this situation as empty and stay married?

A. As a Buddhist it’s good to attempt to see the state of affairs as empty. Nonetheless, seeing the state of affairs as empty is one factor and getting divorced is one other. Should you occur to suppose that one who sees every little thing as empty shouldn’t break up from one’s partner, it doesn’t matter what she or he might do, you’re misunderstanding the concept that every little thing is empty.

When every little thing is empty, not solely staying married however getting divorced can be empty, and one is neither higher nor worse than the opposite in essence. You want really feel neither responsible of 1 selection nor happy with the opposite. If you’re certain that every little thing is empty, you need to be free to decide to your kids and your self and be keen to simply accept the results of your resolution as a result of it’s also empty.

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