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Hi there, and welcome to The Wellness Mama Podcast. I’m Katie from wellnessmama.com, and I’m so grateful you’re right here. This episode is all about easy methods to improve your emotional intelligence and enhance your life. And I’m right here with Dr. Olga, who does this work with a singular and highly effective methodology that mainly helps her remodel unconscious applications, that are brought on by nerve-racking life occasions and trauma, together with generational trauma and genetic trauma, in addition to epigenetic inheritance. And this stuff can affect how we see ourselves and others on the earth. And she or he transforms these in a really, very distinctive approach, which she talks about right this moment. However neuroscience has proven that 95% of our life experiences are formed by unconscious applications. And I do know that resolving a few of my very own trauma had a drastic distinction, even in my bodily well being. So I’m excited to discover this matter additional, and let’s be a part of Dr. Olga. Dr. Olga, welcome. Thanks a lot for being right here.
Dr. Olga: It’s so good to be at your podcast.
Katie: Properly, I received to fulfill you in particular person at a convention final yr, and I knew I needed to share you on the podcast and have a extra in-depth dialog with you. And we’re really going to get to file two episodes. So that is the primary one. You guys keep tuned for the second that may air after this one. And on this one, I do know you might have one million areas of experience, so it’s laborious to choose simply two. However on this episode, I’m actually excited to study from you on easy methods to improve emotional intelligence and the way this could enhance so many areas of our life. So to start out off broad, I might guess hopefully folks have heard that time period, however are you able to outline for us what emotional intelligence is?
Dr. Olga: Emotional intelligence outlined as the flexibility to understand, perceive, and handle your individual feelings. As nicely to acknowledge and affect feelings of people who find themselves round you.
Katie: That is smart. And I do know there’s some particular methods associated to this, however why is emotional intelligence so essential? And why is it perhaps so neglected within the fashionable world?
Dr. Olga: Emotional intelligence is so essential in folks’s life as a result of I want to present a few of my views of what I noticed working with my shoppers over 20 years of my work. My principle is that to be able to have excessive or excessive Emotional Intelligence you have to really feel. And it’s what feelings are registers and autonomic nervous system. And that’s why you have to really feel to be able to have emotional intelligence. And, on this case, some folks can not really feel. Or can really feel laborious time, and a few folks really feel an excessive amount of. Like empaths. For individuals who have excessive emotional intelligence, it’s wonderful what talents they’ve and the way it can enhance their lives.
For instance, folks with excessive emotional intelligence, they are often so perceptive that the phrase is insightful. And in addition join on a deeper stage with folks and even with their paths. And in addition, excessive emotional intelligence permits them to only to understand the world in a extra richer and extra full approach. And a few folks would possibly ask, how so? As a result of folks don’t perceive it until they expertise. A few of my shoppers describe the world and their expertise, like perceptions. Their senses turn into extra richer, much more spectrum of colour. Extra enriched sounds, much more sort of a three- or four-dimensional expertise. As a result of some folks have extra flat expertise. For instance, I had a consumer and his emotional intelligence improved dramatically after engaged on the unconscious applications that created some points. And as an alternative of sort of a flat full moon, now he sees it as if it’s a globe.
And in addition there are different areas of our lives when you possibly can expertise advantages of getting excessive emotional intelligence. As extra individuals are extra environment friendly they usually’re higher in communication as a result of they will observe folks’s feelings and reactions and adapt in response to that. And that’s why they’re excellent even in battle decision.
Katie: Yeah, that is smart of the advantages of it. And I might guess you talked about empaths. Are there downsides or points that may come up when somebody has actually, actually excessive emotional intelligence?
Dr. Olga: Really, curiously sufficient, there’s. People who find themselves empaths they’ve very excessive emotional intelligence, it calls EQ, and in addition very excessive intuitive talents, instinct. And due to that, like how I perceive it’s my perspective, it’s they’re very delicate. How they understand the world round them and other people is sort of extra heightened senses. Sort of vigilant. On this case, they will actually really feel somatically different folks’s feelings and emotions, and it could actually turn into an excessive amount of for them. And my shoppers who I impart reported that they will turn into overwhelmed simply and really drained being round different folks. Really, I keep in mind I had a consumer who described to me, she’s a really excessive empath, that she was hiding throughout conferences in her room or within the foyer of the resort or in a toilet to keep away from being in a giant group of individuals for a protracted time frame. Does make sense?
Katie: That does make sense. And I might guess some folks listening have perhaps skilled that. And on the different finish of the spectrum, it could actually seemingly be an issue, perhaps extra of a giant downside for individuals who have very low or no emotional intelligence. What occurs when somebody doesn’t have a very good stage of emotional intelligence?
Dr. Olga: Really, once more, it’s my principle as a result of these folks can not really feel a lot emotionally and even generally bodily. A few of my shoppers describe throughout our periods that there’s a feeling of not feeling. And so they describe it as a sort of shutdown feeling or numb or they expertise a way of vacancy throughout their physique or in some components, for instance, of their coronary heart or of their head or of their intestine or in all of those locations. And on this case these folks sort of, they’ve thick pores and skin. They’re not delicate. And infrequently they can’t be empathetic or compassionate or what’s happening. And I had some shoppers who skilled that and their spouses, they have been generally thought, due to the perceivance, their partner is insensitive. And it’s as a result of not they needed to be insensitive. They only couldn’t really feel.
And it’s attention-grabbing what they realized. On one hand, when folks can not really feel, it’s an unconscious technique. There are methods of the unconscious thoughts to guard them this fashion. Sort of virtually like creating anesthesia. Like what your mind can do, feeling numb, to be able to survive. It’s what I skilled throughout my periods. That some info from the unconscious thoughts of people that skilled that, it was to do it to be able to survive. The ancestors skilled such a trauma, such emotional and bodily ache, that it was just one option to shut down and numb themselves.
And then again, individuals are too delicate. It’s an excellent unconscious technique to survive. With the intention to survive, you have to turn into vigilant for all the pieces that’s happening. Sounds, what you see, smells. Isn’t it attention-grabbing? Two reverse methods. And for individuals who can not really feel and have low EQ, there will be many issues. These folks can not actually join even with themselves and other people round them. And in addition, even pets. And it could actually create issues of their relationships. And relationships are in all places. The non-public relationships with your loved ones members and your pals and in addition work-related. And it could actually create issues even at their work once they have low EQ.
Katie: That’s so fascinating. And I do know the subsequent query that appears logical is, how can we nurture and create and construct area for larger emotional intelligence? And I do know this is among the many varieties of work that you simply do with folks, however what are a number of the methods we are able to start to develop our emotional intelligence?
Dr. Olga: There are some methods, and I do know there are individuals who assist to extend emotional intelligence, for instance, psychologists, they usually’re doing an excellent job doing that. And once more, I’ve my very own perspective on this matter. My opinion and I imagine to be able to create a everlasting and quick end result, you have to work on the unconscious stage as a result of this downside is created on the unconscious stage. And you have to remodel unconscious applications that created this downside. And unconscious applications are fashioned on account of trauma and nerve-racking life occasions and together with trauma that handed genetically as a transgenerational epigenetic inheritance.
And with the methodology I created, it’s potential to resolve even genetic trauma. And you have to establish these unconscious applications created by trauma and remodel these applications. And on this case, folks don’t must do something. It’s simply when points are gone, folks could have larger emotional intelligence even with out making an attempt. Additionally, what you are able to do, it is going to assist if you may be round animals and vegetation. And pets do have and, animals, excessive emotional intelligence. And I’m undecided in case you are acquainted with mirror neurons. Are you acquainted with this matter?
Katie: A little bit bit however I might love so that you can clarify it extra in depth.
Dr. Olga: And we gained’t have time to speak about this in depth as a result of we’ve got solely half-hour for emotional intelligence matter. However briefly, there are neurons in mind they usually name mirror neurons. And so they received fired when folks observe someone’s shifting and in addition expressing feelings. And that’s why these mirror neurons will be fired for folks being round animals and pets. And particularly in case you are wanting in pets’ eyes. Did you discover that canines are sometimes wanting into homeowners’ eyes or folks’s eyes? Did you discover that?
Katie: I’ve observed that with my canines, yeah, and infants, too.
Dr. Olga: Oh sure, and individuals who can look straight into eyes. And that’s why will probably be essential to be, not simply as soon as, to be round pets. And what I discover, individuals who personal pets, they will develop larger emotional intelligence. And in addition, there’s one other approach. It’s to be round individuals who have excessive emotional intelligence and in addition who specific kindness and compassion. And on this case, in presence of those folks, and naturally not simply as soon as, folks can develop extra excessive emotional intelligence. Even in case you are in presence of such folks, even for one or two minutes, when folks exclude kindness, it could actually create a really large distinction.
And I researched on this matter a very long time in the past as a result of it’s a captivating matter for me. And a few, some psychologists, they recommend to be able to get larger EQ, you have to study physique language. It’s essential have a very good remark and have a which means. Study what does it imply. And solely my level is Katie that doing that, will probably be significantly better than doing nothing. At the least will probably be like cognitive understanding the reactions of individuals. Solely I got here up with my time period. I name it synthetic emotional intelligence. As a result of, for instance, you possibly can educate a robotic easy methods to acknowledge physique language, facial features. And does it imply that robotic could have the next EQ? After all not, proper? And the identical for folks. With the intention to actually have larger EQ, you have to really feel, use your nervous system. Does it make sense?
Katie: That does make sense. And I really feel just like the nervous system is a vital matter that comes up so much on this podcast. And I’m glad we’re turning into extra conscious of how a lot that impacts us. And also you’ve talked about the unconscious patterns and the unconscious stage so much. And I might like to expound on this a little bit bit as a result of I do know simply from my very own anecdotal expertise that I had some unconscious applications that have been operating based mostly on trauma. After which it wasn’t till I addressed people who I used to be ready even to bodily heal. And I used to be sort of awestruck at how a lot of a distinction these issues could make. And we’re not even conscious of them generally. So how can we even turn into conscious of our unconscious applications? And what will we do about them?
Dr. Olga: What a tremendous query, Katie. Folks, what you might be describing, who’ve some limiting unconscious patterns, it could actually create many points of their lives. As within the film, have you ever watched the film Groundhog Day with Invoice Murray?
Katie: A very long time in the past.
Dr. Olga: And it’s such an exquisite film to indicate patterns. And a few individuals are caught in these patterns and their life is proscribed. Unconscious applications, they really affect how folks understand themselves. And folks round them and the world. And it’s crucial, even notion of self, as a result of some folks have such a notion of themselves, it creates low shallowness, low self-worth, and low self-love. And on this case, these folks can have stress every single day and a number of instances per day. That may lead even to some well being situations. And in addition, unconscious applications create these unconscious patterns. And in addition they create, they create even how folks look. As a result of they create neuromuscular appears and may have an effect on your face, facial expressions, posture. They create how folks assume. Like patterns of pondering, both clear patterns or not, how they specific themselves verbally and non-verbally, how they really feel, how they react, how they behave. And to be able to change it, you have to work on the unconscious stage. And that’s why it could actually turn into easy. When adjustments are made, folks don’t must do something or take into consideration that or attempt to change themselves as a result of change shall be on the unconscious stage. Did I reply your query or not?
Katie: You probably did. And I’ve skilled that the place I attempted discuss remedy first, and my aware thoughts was excellent at conserving these issues protected and never having to enter them. And it wasn’t till I attempted to study and begin getting by means of to the unconscious patterns that issues began to shift. And such as you mentioned, it wasn’t laborious work at that time. It was really a pure easy shift as soon as I noticed and sort of received to that stage, but it surely was an elusive course of for me. And I feel it may be perhaps for lots of people. So I’m curious, particularly like in my case with a giant trauma the place my aware thoughts needed to guard me, how can we even entry that unconscious aspect?
Dr. Olga: It’s, some folks, they did they usually do some wonderful work working with the unconscious thoughts. And one in all them, he was Dr. Milton Erickson. He was a psychiatrist. He’s not alive, sadly, anymore. And he used scientific hypnosis, trans work, working with the unconscious thoughts. What I created is totally different. I don’t use hypnosis. I, and easy methods to establish these unconscious patterns and applications? What I do, I observe face, posture, I’m in search of neuromuscular locks. And in addition take heed to the standard of voice of individuals. And I ask folks to do sort of a mechanical drawings, fascinated by the problem. And in all the pieces what I noticed and, in these drawings, there shall be a number of unconscious info.
And I establish by asking questions, in fact, what unconscious patterns and applications created that difficulty, what an individual has. And a few points just one program causes and dealing on one program will just about resolve this difficulty. And a few points are multi-causal, multiple unconscious program causes them. And I establish what unconscious program to work on, and I created a course of, the method to information folks by means of. And through this course of, most of labor, your unconscious thoughts shall be doing. Your unconscious thoughts even will establish all reminiscences that created this program and these points, together with, will be genetic reminiscences, and or womb reminiscences, and or childhood reminiscences.
And after, there are like multi-step processes to be able to resolve trauma in all of those root trigger reminiscences. And on the finish of this course of, just about this unconscious program shall be reworked, and no matter this program creates shall be reworked. And this work is easy for folks as a result of they don’t must do something after doing this work. And so they don’t must assume easy methods to react, easy methods to behave, as a result of, as I instructed, it’s coming from the unconscious stage. And when this work is completed, just about, that’s it. The outcomes are everlasting. They’re very quick, generally prompt, and generally it takes time as much as a number of days to combine. And, as I instructed, easy. And folks don’t must recall these reminiscences that created it and relieve them and really feel that emotional and bodily ache that the ancestors noticed them expertise in these reminiscences.
Katie: Yeah, that was so fascinating to me once I first talked to you, that you simply have been ready to make use of cues from an individual’s physique and realizing a little bit little bit of what I do know concerning the somatic side and the way a number of our communication is definitely physique up versus mind down. However we have a tendency to consider all the pieces as originating within the thoughts. So I like that you simply take these cues and let folks entry their unconscious stage in a approach that truly resolves it. As a result of I do know most likely many individuals listening had the identical expertise I did, the place discuss remedy, in case you have trauma, generally can preserve you caught in it or be not as useful in processing it, whereas that is going to the foundation and to the supply. And I like that you simply speak about not even having to essentially perceive it or dissect it and even keep in mind it, however simply with the ability to launch it. And I can solely think about how transformative that’s. I might guess folks listening nonetheless have a number of questions, and we’re going to get to do one other episode to reply a few of these. However the place can folks discover you on-line in the event that they need to study extra about your methodology? Or the work that you simply do?
Dr. Olga: My web site is drolga.com and it’s simply an abbreviation, D-R Olga, O-L-G-A dot com. And I want to add briefly one thing. Some work, like some psychologists recall some repressed reminiscences from early childhood. What I discover that a number of trauma that created this difficulty will be genetic more often than not. That’s why your dad and mom have been that approach, handled you that approach, as a result of their dad and mom did. And even earlier than, great-grandparents. And why it really works so quick, what I do. As a result of your unconscious thoughts shall be engaged on all teams of reminiscences that created this difficulty with out recalling them. That’s why folks don’t expertise any ache.
Katie: That’s so fascinating. And I do know I’ve talked a little bit concerning the genetic inherited reminiscences earlier than. And I had Mark Wolin on who wrote a complete e book known as It Didn’t Begin with You, which delves into that idea. And I really feel like that’s perhaps a brand new concept for lots of people. However such as you mentioned, it could actually profoundly affect them, and it may also be resolved. So I’ll make it possible for your web site is linked within the present notes in addition to I imagine you’re on social media and other people can observe you there. And I might encourage folks to tune into our subsequent episode as nicely, the place we get to speak about resilience and extra about these unconscious patterns and the way you launch them. However for right this moment, thanks a lot in your time and for all that you simply’ve shared.
Dr. Olga: Thanks a lot, Katie.
Katie: And thanks for listening and sharing your time with us right this moment. We’re so grateful that you simply did. And I hope that you’ll be a part of me once more on the subsequent episode of the Wellness Mama podcast.
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