All relationships are topic to fluctuations. Be it household relations, friendships or intimate relationships, they undergo cycles of concord and disharmony, peace and battle. Generally the disagreements are such that we would somewhat transfer on to a distinct relationship than take care of the problem in entrance of us. We imagine that some place else the grass is greener and subsequently a brand new relationship shall be simpler and extra peaceable.
On this equation we neglect that the issue doesn’t stem from an individual or from our relationship with them. It comes from the truth that our thoughts is full of a few years of recollections in addition to with our frequent story. We deliver these recollections and all of the misunderstandings, judgments, conclusions and unfavourable emotions with us each time we meet. If we imagine the tales our thoughts tells, then these ideas and emotions color each side of our communications and interactions. Thus it’s no marvel that it feels heavy at instances to be with somebody we now have recognized for a very long time…
Our encounters with a brand new particular person are free from all that reminiscence baggage. We meet them with contemporary eyes and a lightweight coronary heart. No unfavourable undercurrents and recollections affect our behaviour. The absence of a standard historical past makes us imagine {that a} relationship with this particular person is extra peaceable – that this particular person is less complicated to get together with. Nonetheless, if we stick round lengthy sufficient, we’ll discover that the sample of the earlier relationship will repeat itself. If we imagine the tales and recollections in our thoughts to be true, then we deliver them into each assembly with the brand new particular person and thus, the conflicts and difficulties will appear to repeat themselves.
The issue shouldn’t be the particular person or the connection. It’s the truth that we meet the story in our thoughts concerning the particular person and never the particular person her/himself. Our encounters are colored by chain-reactions to earlier conditions and recollections as a substitute of being conferences rooted within the Presence of the Self.
Meditation and the information of Oneness have opened one other Imaginative and prescient in us. Having studied the thoughts’s mechanism, we all know that ideas, recollections and conclusions are inevitable actions of the thoughts. Because the Self, they don’t seem to be the truth and so they do not outline us or {our relationships}. Because the Self, we’re free from the actions and One with all beings. That does not imply we aren’t conscious of who we’re coping with and what the extent of consciousness of one other particular person is. It simply means we’re assembly every particular person, together with ourselves, because the Self; free from a narrative, free from opinions and judgments. That is how we stay free and supply freedom in return. And that is how we are able to meet outdated and new relationships in that very same move of Freedom.
Contact Sampriya for a free half hour introduction to non-public Online Meditation Mentoring
#meditationmentoring #meditationmentor #nonduality #yogaphilosophy #freedom #relationships
