Inside: You’re greater than a quantity. Exploring the Enneagram helps you meet and befriend your true self, to witness your power and wrestle disgrace and judgment free, and start strolling in higher self-compassion and freedom. It’s a life-changer for many individuals, together with myself. This publish might embrace referral hyperlinks.
Studying about The Enneagram in my 40s was a game-changer for me.
For years I fortunately dove into various persona assessments and expanded my understanding of self in useful methods. All fashions are “helpful however improper” or can solely provide “partial fact” however layer upon layer, they provide useful details about why we expertise life within the distinctive ways in which we do.
However aside from studying in my 30s that I’m a Highly Sensitive Human (which additionally modified my life), no different self-awareness instrument positively impacted my progress and therapeutic, shone a light-weight on my areas of power and wrestle, drastically improved my relationships, or in any other case helped me put down roots of self-awareness and self-compassion like my exploration of the Enneagram and my Enneatype.
Character and True Self are usually not the identical factor. Character is the id we’ve created for ourself or who we wish to be; it’s the persona that tells others who we’re. Character is a mirrored image of the ways in which we’ve discovered to realize approval or love, to really feel secure, or in any other case get our wants met. Character reveals the field we dwell in however this doesn’t imply we now have to remain right here. Learn more.
Krista xo
you aren’t your persona and also you’Re greater than a quantity
Riso and Hudson write that the Enneagram is a “fashionable amalgam, from a variety of historic knowledge traditions mixed with fashionable psychology.” It’s principally understood and taught as a typology of 27-character archetypes or “false selves” with loads of complexity and nuance.
Step one in exploring the Enneagram is to establish your ‘quantity’ or kind. When you cease right here, as many do, you’ll mistakenly consider that that is the total fact of who you might be. As a substitute, what your Enneatype does at first is make it easier to come head to head along with your persona or how you learned to navigate the world and get your needs met.
A few necessary caveats: First, our personality is not the full truth of who we are; it’s
Fashions just like the Enneagram assist us uncover our truest selves beneath all our layers of self-protection and shadow, efforts at discovering belonging, or the masks we put on (unconscious or not). Second, the Enneagram doesn’t put us right into a field as some worry, nevertheless it helps us establish the field we’re already in so we will climb out after which select our path ahead.
“Becoming” by way of unearthing and understanding our wiring and awakening to our essence or truest self helps us really feel at house in our personal pores and skin and stroll by this world with higher confidence and ease.
It empowers us to write a new story for our life.
Touchdown on a quantity on the spectrum doesn’t make you equivalent to different individuals along with your quantity. I recognize LMFT Michael Shahan’s “shades of a shade” instance: “We’ve the colour pink, however we even have scarlet, crimson, burgundy, auburn, and maroon. All of them match into the pink household, however they’re very totally different from each other. This identical idea can apply to your Enneagram quantity.”
Our core kind doesn’t change however there’s an entire lot of motion that may occur. We’ve wings on both facet of our quantity that affect our behaviour, we pull from two totally different factors on the mannequin (our stretch and launch factors), we shift between our subtypes (generally known as Instincts), and we transfer up and down the ladder of well being or integration for our dominant kind. You possibly can go into this later, for those who take the course, however for now I wish to emphasize the joyful risk that presents itself as we awaken to who and the way and why we’re and develop into extra totally ourselves.
THE ENNEGRAM can equip you to select who and the way you wish to be
The Enneagram can really feel confronting at first. Richard Rohr says, “When you don’t sense the entire thing as someway humiliating, you haven’t but discovered your quantity.” It will probably really feel like seeing the reality of oneself laid naked, perhaps for the primary time, and it feels weak and uncooked (but can also really feel extremely liberating and affirming).
Whereas the journey might be uncomfortable at occasions, the intention is to not merely level out our flaws and failings. As a substitute, it invitations us into truth-telling and deep progress work and helps us launch judgement, witness our power and gifting, and higher equip us to point out up totally to life with pleasure and on goal in each season.
The Enneagram describes motivation not behaviour. Understanding our WHY or the roots of our behaviour together with our core fears and needs is the place issues get attention-grabbing. The extra we study our personal kind/methods of displaying up on the earth, the much less triggered or reactive we develop into and the extra we transfer into genuine relationship with these round us and CHOOSE our response. It’s enjoyable if household and mates wish to discover this with us, however even when they don’t, as we start to see in a different way, our life expertise is impacted.
We will spend a lifetime exploring the Enneagram; I continue learning and going deeper in my understanding and utility as a result of life always calls us into progress. Not everybody desires to deep dive although and that’s okay too; no matter degree we wish to interact with it, it may be a great tool.
Exploring The Enneagram is obtainable FREE, together with one other mini-course, Exploring the Gifts + Challenges of High Sensitivity, to members of the Brave + Beautiful Community. The Exploring the Enneagram Mini-course is obtainable that will help you be taught to make use of the Enneagram to get to know and recognize your self higher and stroll in higher freedom.
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Krista xo
Initially printed July 3, 2021
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