Is the life you’re dwelling proper now the life you really need?
It’s not a query we at all times dare to ask ourselves, as a result of fairly frankly….we would not like the reply.
And but, once in a while, I believe it’s necessary to step again and take a look at the larger image and get trustworthy with ourselves about the place we’re at proper now…..and the place we wish to go.
It’s really the query that impressed me to place collectively my upcoming FREE workshop, Healthy, Happy & Free in 2024.
Able to drop some pounds and get wholesome for all times with out weight-reduction plan, medication or making your self depressing?
Our free on demand video coaching will enable you to perceive why it’s been so laborious and what do to about it.
My aim is that will help you lay out a transparent path for remodeling your well being–and actually your entire life–over the following 12 months. It’s going to be SO enjoyable and empowering and actually I believe it’ll be life altering for everybody who attends.
As a result of so usually we simply get STUCK not shifting ahead as a result of attempting to determine the best way to get from the place we’re proper now to the place we wish to be simply feels so massive and so laborious and so overwhelming.
So when you haven’t had an opportunity to register but, make sure to do this HERE, as a result of it’s going to be superior. Actually.
However as I’ve been getting ready for this workshop, it’s had me considering SO MUCH about this matter of simply dwelling a life that’s wholesome, comfortable & FREE and what that really means.
As a result of it’s an enormous deal.
And it’s additionally made me understand that so as to really CREATE the life you need, to seek out that well being and happiness and freedom, you’ve bought to get some CLARITY on what that really appears like.
I discuss to SO many ladies that inform me they simply don’t know what they really need.
I believe it’s perhaps this stage of life that so many people in our 40s and 50’s and even past that get to, the place we’ve spent the final 20 or 30 years simply attempting to boost our children and pursue our careers and do all of the issues, after which instantly we get up in the future and understand that life is passing us by and our children don’t want us as a lot as they used to and but we haven’t actually spent any time deliberately pursuing the issues that matter to us or crafting a life that feels significant.
It’s like there’s this void and we don’t know the best way to fill it. We don’t even completely know what it’s that we would like, we simply know that there’s part of us that appears like one thing is lacking. So we simply maintain doing all of the issues, hoping that sometime it would all make sense.
However over the course of my very own journey, which I speak about in additional element on this week’s podcast episode, what I’ve realized is you can run and run and run and maintain working from your self and from all of the issues you are attempting to keep away from, however ultimately it WILL catch as much as you.
There WILL be a reckoning.
One thing will occur that can pressure you to reevaluate the place you’re at and the place you’re going, like a mirror being held up in entrance of your face, the place you’ll have the ability to see your self clearly and also you’ll need to ask your self “do I like what I see?”
For some folks it’s a tragedy. For others it’s shedding your job or getting divorced or going through a monetary disaster or perhaps a international pandemic.
And all of the sudden you’ll understand that you’ll want to get clear about what you really need.
Why Readability Issues
As a result of right here’s the factor…..with out readability, you’ll solely ever be DRIFTING.
And consider me, it’s straightforward to float. Truthfully, most of us spend our entire lives drifting, not likely positive the place we’re going or why.
We simply undergo the motions, doing what’s anticipated of us and what everybody else is doing. We observe tendencies and societal norms with out ever stopping to query if it’s really what we would like for ourselves.
However drifting is harmful. As a result of if you’re not actively steering your personal ship, you’ll be able to simply find yourself in waters you by no means needed to be in.
And the worst half? You gained’t even understand it till it’s too late.
Readability, then again, is sort of a compass that guides us in the direction of the life we actually need. It helps us make choices and take actions that align with our values and targets. It offers us a way of path and goal.
So readability issues. A LOT. The truth is, it could be crucial factor you ever do for your self.
However then, in fact, the query turns into HOW.
How are you going to really get clear about what you need?
There’s really just a few steps I like to recommend that you just take.
Step One: Self-Assess
Step one to getting clear is to take , laborious take a look at your self and your life and the place you’re at proper now. And actually, this isn’t at all times a straightforward course of. It’s that holding up the mirror, and generally–when you understand that you just don’t completely like what you see, it may be slightly painful!
So what would occur when you gave your self a rating, on the dimensions of 1-10, within the following areas of your life proper now?
Well being
To your well being rating, a ten would imply you’re utterly happy together with your present well being and weight. You feel and look your very best, you’ve bought limitless quantities of power, and also you’re freed from continual ache, irritation, digestive points, and mind fog. You don’t assume it could be doable to look or really feel any more healthy than you do proper now.
On the opposite finish of the spectrum, a 1 would imply you’re utterly UNsatisfied together with your present well being and weight. On the BMI scale you’re labeled as overweight or obese, and also you’re combating quite a lot of well being points, together with probably Sort 2 Diabetes or pre-diabetes, irritation, hypertension, excessive ldl cholesterol, heartburn, continual ache, continual fatigue, and mind fog. Basically, you’re deeply involved about your well being proper now.
And chances are high, you’re someplace in the midst of these two extremes. However when you had been to consider it and really give your self a quantity, what wouldn’t it be?
Happiness
Then, on your happiness rating, a ten would imply you’re feeling completely comfortable and happy together with your life more often than not. Your relationships are good, you’ve a deep sense of that means and goal, you chortle repeatedly, you’re motivated and energized, and also you frequently hunt down alternatives for private progress.
Or, on the opposite finish of the spectrum, a 1 would imply you’re feeling utterly UNhappy or dissatisfied together with your life more often than not. You wrestle with despair and anxiousness, lack wholesome & optimistic relationships, really feel caught and unmotivated, and have hassle envisioning something completely different than your present scenario.
And once more, it’s seemingly that your rating would fall someplace in between these two extremes, however when you actually cease to assume the place you’re at when it comes to happiness and satisfaction in your life proper now, what would that quantity be?
Freedom
After which, on your closing quantity–your FREEDOM rating–a ten would imply that proper now you’re feeling utterly free to pursue your targets and desires, with out feeling like there’s something holding you again. You say sure to new alternatives. You dare to take dangers, and don’t really feel fearful or burdened by exterior occasions or different folks’s expectations. The folks round you help your targets and cheer you on.
Or, on the opposite facet, a 1 would imply that proper now you’re feeling utterly caught to the purpose you’re unable to even take into consideration pursuing any targets and desires. You end up continually saying no, even to actions and pursuits that you just used to take pleasure in. You keep away from dangers and infrequently end up consumed with worry and anxiousness about world occasions or different folks’s ideas and actions. You don’t really feel like you’ve help system round you.
So on your freedom rating, the place does your quantity fall?
(And simply so you realize, you’ll really get entry to a workbook with this evaluation and a few further useful reflection questions as quickly as you register for our free workshop, so make sure to do this straight away.)
In order that’s actually step one…..you bought to be trustworthy with your self about the place you’re at proper now.
Step Two: Ask Your self What You Need
The following step, then, is to really spend a while fascinated about what you actually need in every of those three areas of your life–well being, happiness, and freedom.
And whereas that sounds easy, it’s not, particularly if you’re feeling overwhelmed and caught and uncertain
However you must FORCE your self to really begin fascinated about it.
And actually, it will possibly’t simply be considering in your head. You must journal on it. Rather a lot.
You’ve bought to ask your self the query, time and again, “what do I need?”
Just a few years in the past, as I used to be going by my very own private identification disaster, that is precisely what my husband saved saying to me.
He’d ask, “honey, what’s that you really want? You don’t appear comfortable. What does successful appear like to you? What do you really need?”
After which a detailed buddy instructed me that I wanted to journal EVERY DAY on the identical 2 questions–”what do I need, and what’s it going to take to get there?” She instructed me that the extra I journaled on simply that query, the extra readability I might have the ability to discover.
She was proper. They had been each proper. I’m fortunate I’ve good folks in my life giving me actually good recommendation, as a result of it was precisely what I wanted.
And in order that’s the recommendation I’m going to offer you too. In case you want extra readability then you’ll want to sit with that query. What do I really need? What do I need for my well being? What do I need for my happiness? What do I need for my freedom?
In order that’s step two–ask your self what you need, time and again.
Step Three: Make a Plan
The third and closing step, when you’ve began to get extra readability on what it’s you really need, is to make a plan to get there.
As a result of the fact is that just about every thing you need out of life IS doable, even the issues that really feel unimaginable proper now.
I believe so usually we simply shut ourselves down earlier than we’ve even gotten began as a result of we simply get overwhelmed or impatient, when the fact is that there’s little or no any of us aren’t able to with sufficient effort and time and focus.
I say this on a regular basis, however massive targets by no means occur abruptly. They’re solely EVER the results of small steps taken constantly over time. And so to make these massive targets occur, you simply have to determine the best way to break it down into manageable bites.
That’s actually all a plan is. It’s this massive factor that you really want, damaged down into smaller and smaller items you can really deal with one by one.
The way in which I usually like to do that in each my enterprise and my private life is to have a look at a BIG aim, and assume, “if I had been to attain this aim, what are the 5 issues that must occur, the 5 main milestones I would wish to make occur first? After which from there, I break down every of these 5 main milestones into 5 smaller milestones. And what I find yourself with is mainly a roadmap for what I wish to do.
And from there it’s only a matter of carrying out every step.
Whereas that may sound too simplistic to really work, it’s really extremely highly effective.
So make a plan–that’s step three. However solely AFTER you’ve gotten readability on the place you wish to go.
A Few Closing Ideas
Getting readability made me understand what really issues in my life, and what’s actually necessary to me.
It restored my marriage. It reworked my well being. It modified the main target of my enterprise, and even how I function as a frontrunner. It reworked my friendships and helped create a lot extra pleasure and FUN in my life. And it reignited my religion and my religious journey too.
There isn’t part of my life that isn’t higher on account of getting extra readability.
And I promise it will possibly do the identical for you.
So be part of me subsequent week–both November fifth or sixth for my free workshop, and within the meantime get your workbook and DO the prework!
It’s going to be a recreation changer, and I can’t wait to see you there!
