The factor about that barrage coming from a narcissist, ask your self whether it is related to no matter is being mentioned.
So usually a narcissist will redirect a dialog to place the opposite on the defensive. They throw up a variety of nonsense. Emphasis on “throw up.”
If you happen to reply to it, it means it’s landed on you.
Nevertheless, if it isn’t related, it doubtless doesn’t require a response.
As an alternative, both acknowledge you aren’t going to get anyplace with this dialogue and depart it, or deliver the dialog again to the matter at hand.
If bringing the dialogue again to the matter at hand this can be a good time for the phrase, “however.”
“However” is a phrase that has the facility to dismiss no matter got here earlier than it:
“However what I used to be asking was whether or not you had been coming Friday at 5:00 to choose up the youngsters.”
If the n-rcissist nonetheless tries to redirect to place you on the defensive with one thing irrelevant, not to mention unfaithful, simply deliver it again, make a press release and set a boundary:
“Properly, I shall be ready no later than 5:30 then. If I haven’t heard from you by then, we shall be following by means of with different plans.”
You owe no rationalization in your time or plans. What’s at challenge is the arrival of the n-rcissist.
Resisting their traps, staying on level and setting clear boundaries is your survival technique.
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