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Whats up and welcome to The Wellness Mama Podcast. I’m Katie from wellnessmama.com and I’m so completely satisfied you’re right here with me in the present day. This episode is about easy methods to turn into extra resilient and easy methods to take care of our emotional and unconscious programming that we could have inherited or been with us since we have been very younger. And that is vital as a result of neuroscience has proven that 95% of our life experiences will be formed by our unconscious applications. And Dr. Olga Stevko, who’s an MD out of Russia, has created a very distinctive methodology to addressing these unconscious programming, together with issues inherited from our dad and mom or our ancestors. And these are issues that may affect how we see ourselves and others on the planet. And so they can even have an effect on our nervous system and impression each our thoughts and our physique. And so she transforms these unconscious applications with a really distinctive methodology that produces quick, everlasting, and life-changing outcomes. So let’s be part of Dr. Olga and learn to be extra resilient. Dr. Olga, welcome again. Thanks for being right here once more.
Dr. Olga: Thanks. It’s so good to be right here.
Katie: Nicely, in our first episode, which I’ll hyperlink within the present notes when you’re listening on the go, we received to speak about emotional intelligence and unconscious patterns. And I’m actually excited to construct on that dialog in the present day in one thing that’s complementary to that, which is the subject of resilience. And so to begin off for some foundational understanding, are you able to clarify what resilience is and why it’s vital to be resilient?
Dr. Olga: Resilience is a capability to get well from or modify simply to hectic life occasions, tragedy and in addition any type of trauma and alter. And why is it vital to have resilience? It’s vital for psychological well being and in addition well-being and success.
Katie: And I’d guess there are possibly many issues in fashionable life that may kind of scale back our resilience or not less than be a problem to our resilience. I do know it’s usually talked about how we face much more issues each mentally and even bodily in in the present day’s world. However what are a few of the issues that may impression our resilience?
Dr. Olga: Sure issues can decrease our resilience. One among them is If no matter is happening is extreme, extreme trauma or really hectic life occasions, or perhaps a lack of someone you like, and even typically Katie, sadly, language of some medical doctors just isn’t so, easy methods to even say it, not so good and considerate, how they provide you a analysis. As a result of some folks even don’t perceive medical phrases they usually’re so scared it creates trauma for them. And that have an effect on all what I discussed, and in addition the lens of all of that, it’s happening for a very long time, it could possibly actually decrease folks’s resilience. And likewise some folks, a few of my shoppers skilled like, one traumatic or hectic issues was occurring after one other one, after one other one, simply a number of in a row. And it could possibly decrease resilience too.
Katie: That is sensible. And I’m glad you introduced up language as a result of that’s one factor I observed. And there could be, you may need much more context on this, however I observed that once I paid consideration to and adjusted my internal language, the expression of it, even in my physique modified. So once I used to have inside issues, I stated to myself, like that I used to be sick or I had Hashimoto’s, it was like my biology responded to that. And once I shifted that to even simply merely say, I’m therapeutic day-after-day, I get higher. It was like my physiology caught up. And I believe you’re proper, when persons are given a analysis, possibly it turns into a part of their id. And so I attempted to shift from taking up that factor to only pondering of this can be a phrase that a physician has introduced that he’s attempting to provide me. And I can select to just accept that phrase or not. Perhaps I can use it as info to assist me get higher, however I don’t should turn into that id. However are you able to converse extra about our language? And the way that may have an effect on our resilience?
Dr. Olga: You might be completely proper, Katie, that language is extraordinarily vital, particularly the way you internally are speaking to your self and speaking to folks round you, particularly youngsters. As a result of some, the way you create phrases, sure means will be very disagreeable, even traumatic for folks. And so they can expertise mentally, emotionally, and even somatically, bodily consequently, as penalties.
And likewise it’s your perspective. Your perspective, while you change your perspective, the way you take a look at issues, and in addition your language, it should change how you are feeling, the way you react. It may well create a huge impact in your life. And even there’s a methodology in neurolinguistic programming, it calls reframing. It’s discovering a distinct that means, type of put a distinct body on what’s happening. And by doing that, you may even assist someone round to really feel higher. As a result of some folks, they’re type of naturally, even with out understanding that, they’ll reframe, make someone really feel higher. And a few folks research easy methods to do it. It’s so vital to observe what you’re saying and the way you’re saying. And even folks can take some programs as a way to learn to do it. And it’s an important, as I discussed, even for medical doctors to make use of sure language. As a result of language can actually damage somebody, and it could possibly heal. As a result of, Katie, the placebo impact is a part of that’s language. That creates a response in your nervous system, type of expectation to heal.
Katie: Yeah, that’s such an vital level. And I believe that inside language and the way we see ourselves actually does turn into profound in how we really exhibit on the planet and the way our physique responds. I do know years in the past, I learn that e-book, The Physique Retains the Rating, and it defined how this stuff can bodily have an effect on us so, a lot. I’d love to speak a bit bit about easy methods to turn into extra resilient or possibly some widespread traits of people that have cultivated numerous resilience.
Dr. Olga: Sure, really what traits folks have and easy methods to turn into resilient, some are type of associated, related. Individuals who have like increased resilience, they usually have excessive emotional intelligence. And likewise they be taught from their errors. Truly, Katie, have you ever ever skilled some folks round you who by no means discovered from their errors? They have been repeating time and again their errors. Have you ever?
Katie: Completely. And I’ve carried out that too prior to now.
Dr. Olga: And really I Iike to be taught from my very own errors and I like to be taught from different folks’s errors. It’s very useful for me. And if you don’t be taught, you’re going to repeat the identical patterns as I discussed, like on a Groundhog Day film. And likewise, different traits it’s people who find themselves resilient they’ve optimism. They’re extra optimistic, they see brighter facet of no matter is occurring. And likewise, they attempt to discover a constructive intention, the explanation why one thing is occurring.
And so they even usually have a humorousness. It’s really the way you take a look at issues. For those who look with humor, it’s simpler to undergo some powerful instances. And likewise, they’ve perseverance and dedication. They’re not ready for someone to resolve their subject or drawback or difficulties. They take motion they usually’re dedicated to resolve no matter is happening. And likewise, they’re very adaptable to vary. I do know some folks don’t like change. They worry change. And alter will probably be it doesn’t matter what. And resilient folks, they adapt to vary it doesn’t matter what it’s. And, and also you requested me additionally, and in addition, I bear in mind, they’ve a capability to focus and suppose clear throughout some hectic conditions, individuals who have resilience.
And easy methods to, easy methods to enhance your resilience is, it’s really to have humorousness. And to take a look at issues in another way, having this humorousness. And likewise, to really, there’s a technique all people can do it. When you’re burdened or going by way of troublesome instances, what are you able to do? Like it could possibly work so quick, Katie, as a result of you need to use all your senses. Visible what you see, auditorium what you hear, kinesthetic what you are feeling, and in addition olfactory and gustatory. And it received’t take a lot time. Even two minutes will probably be sufficient to really feel totally different. In fact, when you’ve got 10 or quarter-hour, even it’s higher. You will discover some very enjoyable film on YouTube. Not a film, it’s what persons are, it may be a brief film for nature. It may be beneath the water serial. Or it may be any type of nature, no matter you want. It may be butterflies flying within the backyard, or woods, or waterfalls with quick and enjoyable music. On this case, you will notice and listen to on the identical time you may drink your favourite tea that has good taste. Will probably be for gustatory to style it, and in addition for good scent. If it’s, for instance, jasmine tea, you’ll scent jasmine. And even some folks like to make use of a comfortable blanket to really feel it. On this case, while you expertise a rest in all the senses, you may get extra calm, and loosen up very quick.
And likewise you may, you may take a look at what’s happening, type of utilizing extra larger image. When persons are going by way of difficulties or hectic occasions, they’ll expertise what’s happening type of on a extra slender, centered, restricted means, they usually don’t see a much bigger image of what’s doable. And you may type of think about stepping out, turning into as a witness, observer of your self in that scenario. And after you may think about even your self, for instance, as an eagle flying above the scenario, your self and what’s doable to do on this scenario, type of to create a much bigger image.
Even what you are able to do while you’re going by way of troublesome instances, even to observe a humorous film. Like a comedy film, even to pay attention or watch a comic, as a result of laughter can shift how you are feeling at that second. And what’s very, crucial, it’s to really ask for assist. For many individuals, it’s arduous to ask for assist. On this scenario, troublesome conditions, it’s a must to ask for assist and to be round supportive folks and to be related to deeper folks, particularly with folks with excessive emotional intelligence or present kindness and compassion. As a result of kindness and compassion can completely heal you. It’s what I consider.
And it’s attention-grabbing, for resilient folks once they undergo arduous instances, it could possibly shift sure issues about themselves. For instance, they uncover some skills they even didn’t know that they had earlier than as a way to undergo that scenario. Additionally, they turn into extra clear about their relationships. Perhaps you expertise it too. As a result of some folks that they had of their lives, they notice these persons are really poisonous. And a type of energetic vampires solely take their vitality however by no means give. And on this case, they resolve to let go of those folks. And to be round and to ask to their lives solely people who find themselves, it’s a reciprocity, who’re given to. And likewise, they notice about their precedence. About what was vital earlier than. It’s not vital after that occasion. Like what’s vital and your precedence adjustments after sure trauma and after sure even what do you name it, trauma and misfortune. As a result of even figuring out priorities and what’s vital can shift how your life.
Katie: I like that. And I’ve observed a bit little bit of what you’re speaking about in my very own life with the character ingredient and the times I get morning daylight and go outdoors immediately, I really feel extra calm and fewer overwhelmed in my day. And that’s one thing now I usually say on right here is simply getting that morning daylight will be so useful. That morning outdoors nature time will be so grounding and useful in your day.
And I like that you just additionally talked about the observer impact, as a result of that is one thing I’ve included in small methods. As an example, if I’m an athlete now, and if I’m getting physique work to assist with my muscle tightness, and it’s actually uncomfortable, as an alternative of figuring out with my physique and being in my physique, I’ll type of attempt to shift into observer mode and simply observe like, oh, the physique is being pushed on, the physique is experiencing discomfort, however eradicating myself a bit bit makes an enormous distinction. And I do know you’re employed with many individuals one-on-one about this. I’d love when you may share some examples that you just’ve seen with folks you’ve labored with for constructing resilience, and possibly even to circle again to our preliminary dialog for emotional intelligence as nicely.
Dr. Olga: Thanks, Katie. And initially, earlier than we discuss that, what you stated will be profound in folks’s lives to have higher resilience, caring for your self, even getting sufficient sleep, getting extra wholesome meals, walks, getting solar. And a few folks don’t notice, even when you take a couple of minutes, a number of instances per day simply to type of to be current, to take a seat down and to loosen up and even dance for 2 minutes. Flip in your favourite music and dance. It may well really shift how you are feeling.
And let’s discuss a few of my shoppers. I offers you one of many examples for resilience. I had a consumer and sadly inside quick time frame, she misplaced all members of her household. It was so horrible. And she or he had nervousness as a result of she was alone. And she or he had worry of abandonment subject. And likewise she couldn’t sleep a lot. And after engaged on the unconscious applications that created this subject, and it occurred so quick for her, even after one session she skilled a dramatic end result. Just about all of those points have been gone. And she or he grew to become very, very resilient and began to take pleasure in her life once more. And earlier than she couldn’t take pleasure in her life, she was at that state like a type of reliving trauma. And I believe many individuals will resonate with that as a result of all of us, we misplaced someone we beloved prior to now or within the current, and we’re going to lose, and even pets, for instance, or folks, or issues we love. And it’s crucial to be resilient and bounce again to the place you have been earlier than. And really, some folks, it’s not about bouncing again. For some folks, it’s arduous to utterly bounce again. Some folks will discover a totally different new path of their lives to take care of these painful conditions.
And I wish to point out additionally for emotional intelligence, I had a consumer, really a small woman, and he or she was at the moment one thing like two and a half, between two and a half and three years outdated. And attributable to her well being subject, she had a really sluggish growth, psychological and bodily, and sadly, that woman couldn’t stroll. She couldn’t really focus and concentrate. Sort of when first time I noticed her, she was utterly dissociated from her physique, type of was out of there. And couldn’t really specific on her face any, for instance, pleasure or laughter.
And curiously sufficient, you are able to do work with even babies, working with one father or mother or each dad and mom as a proxy. And I labored together with her mom. Her mom imagined turning into her daughter. And we did just about all the pieces what I do for my grownup shoppers. And her daughter was in that room. And on this case, a baby may even sleep as a result of her unconscious thoughts is receiving or play or watch a film. Nonetheless her unconscious thoughts is receiving what’s happening. And dealing together with her mom doing this work, the outcomes have been astonishing even for me. I didn’t count on such like dramatic end in such like quick time frame. That woman modified a lot. She grew to become related in her physique. She may focus. She grew to become curious. She paid consideration. She began to smile and chortle usually. She began not solely like stroll, even she was dancing. And like very curious and pointing and current and centered. And it’s exceptional what occurred. And what I consider, her emotional intelligence elevated. She began to specific feelings. And consequently, her expression of face, her physique language modified quite a bit. Her sounds modified quite a bit. And doing it, my instance, so it’s sufficient.
Katie: That’s so fascinating. And I do know you’re employed one-on-one with folks to perform this stuff. I’ll put your web site within the present notes. However for individuals who wish to be taught extra about this, the place can they discover you and be taught extra?
Dr. Olga: There may be extra info and numerous movies of people that expertise life-changing outcomes on my web site, drolga.com. It’s an abbreviation D-R-O-L-G-A.com. And it’s doable to do that work not solely one-on-one, in small teams as much as six folks, and folks have the identical outcomes. And I do individually teams for ladies and for males as a result of one way or the other persons are extra open and really feel extra protected when they’re solely in girls’s group or solely in males’s group.
Katie: Great. Nicely, I’ll embrace that hyperlink within the present notes. And Dr. Olga, it’s so enjoyable to get to speak with you once more after we met in individual final yr. Thanks a lot for the time and for all of the work that you just do to assist folks with all of the issues we talked about.
Dr. Olga: Thanks a lot, Katie. It was such a pleasure to be in your podcast.
Katie: And thanks as all the time for listening and sharing your Most worthy sources, your time, your vitality, and your consideration with us in the present day. We’re each so grateful that you just did. And I hope that you’ll be part of me once more on the following episode of The Wellness Mama podcast.
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