Most of us like to take an excellent self-knowledge quiz—even one thing as foolish as “Which ‘Friends’ character are you?” (I am “Phoebe,” by the way in which.)
I am certain that this love of quizzes is one cause that so many individuals have taken my “Four Tendencies” quiz. This quiz inform you whether or not you are an Upholder, Questioner, Obliger, or Insurgent. Greater than 3.5 million individuals have taken this quiz.
My 4 Tendencies quiz, nonetheless, is kind of severe. It took me greater than a yr to craft the language to tell apart precisely among the many 4 forms of personalities.
It’s extremely helpful to know your Tendency, as a result of that information enables you to make habits extra successfully, expertise much less frustration with your self and different individuals, and work and stay extra harmoniously at work and in life.
In fact, you may take the quiz your self, and if you happen to’re interested by different individuals’s Tendencies you may recommend that they take it.
However I’ve seen that, even with out the quiz, individuals can normally predict the Tendencies of essential individuals of their lives. For example, author Zibby Owens instructed me that she thought that every of her 4 kids was a special Tendency. Later, she requested them to take the quiz, and certain sufficient, she was proper.
Once I discuss concerning the 4 Tendencies at conferences, I discover that as I describe every Tendency, individuals will usually begin laughing and pointing to somebody within the viewers; they acknowledge a co-worker’s Tendency instantly.
So if you recognize the 4 Tendencies, check your information! Select some members of the family, pals, or co-workers, and attempt to establish their Tendency. Then ask them to take the quiz, and see how properly you scored.
The quiz is free and fast to take.
If you cannot persuade somebody to take the quiz, you may seek the advice of my “Flash Analysis.” (Click on here and you will find it beneath “The 4 Tendencies.”)
It’s also possible to attempt to establish the Tendencies of the Game of Thrones characters.
Let me know the way you do! I might be very curious to listen to. I am guessing that sure Tendencies—Rebels and Upholders—are significantly simple to identify.
Now you might be asking—and if you happen to’re a Questioner, you are definitely asking—”Why ought to I hassle to attempt to determine another person’s Tendency?”
As a result of understanding somebody’s Tendency makes it a lot simpler to speak successfully.
- Speaking to a Questioner? You should definitely clarify why you are asking—why ought to this individual do that activity, on this method, by this date?
- To a Insurgent? Embrace language resembling, “If it really works for you,” “If this seems like enjoyable,” “If that is one thing that pursuits you,” “Should you really feel prefer it, please be at liberty to affix us…”
- To an Obliger? Present that you simply’re being attentive to whether or not that factor will get completed, and that it issues to you.
- To an Upholder? Be clear about what you are asking for, and by when.
The 4 Tendencies may cut back battle. I’ve talked to so many {couples}, dad and mom, medical doctors and nurses, academics, and coaches who’ve used the framework. Once we ask or inform somebody to do one thing, if we body it in the way in which that is sensible to them, they’re way more prone to cooperate.
It is exceptional to me how a easy change in language could make it a lot simpler for individuals to stay and work collectively in concord.
If you would like to be taught extra concerning the 4 Tendencies, how one can apply them in several conditions, and watch fascinating interviews with every Tendency, click here.
